tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5937303870758455964.post2239758960705381131..comments2024-03-28T13:43:19.402-04:00Comments on Martin Family Moments: Working MomsColleenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11451797365712728579noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5937303870758455964.post-66657890710568278092012-08-29T14:35:30.131-04:002012-08-29T14:35:30.131-04:00This is such a hard topic for women. We are so har...This is such a hard topic for women. We are so hard on ourselves. I am a teacher who really would love to be a stay at home mom. My husband is in support of my decision. However, in ontario, teaching jobs are very hard to come by and I have worked hard to get the seniority needed for job security. I know in my heart that home is where I belong but can't give up that pension, health benefits and extra income my job provides. The biggest issue I have is the fact that I feel like my family and friends see me as crazy for walking away from my career. They are so vocal about how silly it is and true be told, I hate that people think this. We as a society do not value "Motherhood" as an important role. Just coming off a mat leave, I know that being home all day is way tougher than going to work. We are expected to be super women and do it all....but in many cases that means choosing to focus on building our families or careers. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5937303870758455964.post-86091497885594780502012-08-29T04:59:40.439-04:002012-08-29T04:59:40.439-04:00Great post! Beautiful perspective. I never conside...Great post! Beautiful perspective. I never considered staying at home until I had the joy of raising children and found that the satisfaction of watching their accomplishments outshone the satisfaction I found in the career I had outside the home. Now I wait (not so) patiently for my husband to finish his PhD program so I can stay at home full time and manage the homebase.Jennahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17550113817286881167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5937303870758455964.post-65288820506537548562012-08-28T19:38:28.345-04:002012-08-28T19:38:28.345-04:00AMEN!AMEN!Busy Bee Suzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18115487928147732314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5937303870758455964.post-77892283233757909202012-08-28T17:07:11.031-04:002012-08-28T17:07:11.031-04:00Great post! Raising children is the most difficult...Great post! Raising children is the most difficult and most important job in the world. Everybody's future depends upon the results of our work. Why are women constantly putting themselves down over this "profession" called motherhood? I just read an interview with Katie Couric and do you know what she said her biggest regret was? Not having more children. Hmmm....... At the end of the day, what else really matters?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5937303870758455964.post-58086120367167400122012-08-28T12:47:00.090-04:002012-08-28T12:47:00.090-04:00Very good post! I HAVE to stay home. We have 5 kid...Very good post! I HAVE to stay home. We have 5 kids with only one in school. It would take an insane amount of money to have them in daycare. Probably more than I would be able to bring home! I really do wish I could get a job sometimes though. I feel like I don't contribute anything, especially since I'm a pretty bad cook and housekeeper!Shellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03951937670507565105noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5937303870758455964.post-70429696136327856942012-08-28T12:38:22.668-04:002012-08-28T12:38:22.668-04:00Shoot. There's nothing anyone could say to me...Shoot. There's nothing anyone could say to me that's worse than the things I say to myself already. When I worked, I beat myself up for "paying someone else for the privilege of raising my children". Now that I stay at home, I beat myself up for "not making a positive contribution to the family's finances".<br />There's no pleasing me. <br />But yeah. I'm never ever surprised by the things the media says about moms.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05629132804649152538noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5937303870758455964.post-38850489617804894402012-08-28T12:18:55.497-04:002012-08-28T12:18:55.497-04:00Sometimes I think it's not only "stay at ...Sometimes I think it's not only "stay at home moms" that feel like they need to "apologize" for their vocation or feel "undervalued" but anyone working with children. I felt the same way as a preschool teacher at times. I was looked down upon by "real" teachers and at times by the "moms" who went to their "real jobs", but I was happy and I knew when I looked at the children I taught that they were valuable, so my "work" was valuable... no matter what the rest of the world or my collegues thought. I look now into the eyes of my daughter and though she may not know the sacrifices we make so that I can stay home with her... I know and I know she's worth every sacrifice.<br /><br />But you're right, that there are times when a mom HAS to work and she shouldn't feel less worthy by stay at home moms because she's unable to.<br /><br />We need to stop judging and start supporting each other and helping one another to be able to be the best wives and mothers we are able to be for our families.<br /><br />Thanks for posting, though Colleen. xoMarijanna and Shaunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01973287919844571970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5937303870758455964.post-67503524909408537882012-08-28T10:52:36.655-04:002012-08-28T10:52:36.655-04:00I'm a lawyer who came home to have kids and st...I'm a lawyer who came home to have kids and stayed home. I'll admit that I used to feel a little superior. I've thought about this a lot, and I believe that it is our fallen nature that makes us fight like this. Women, even good women, tend to pick at other women. We need to be aware of it in our own lives and fight the tendency with confession and prayer. For those without faith, I don't see how the fighting will ever stop. It is such a passionate, yet irrational fight - the Mommy wars.Mama Bear, JDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05105281995894605805noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5937303870758455964.post-76815708590684053972012-08-28T10:51:41.070-04:002012-08-28T10:51:41.070-04:00Beautiful post!Beautiful post!Janethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18098123627380728910noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5937303870758455964.post-20159435666029820142012-08-28T10:48:39.367-04:002012-08-28T10:48:39.367-04:00Amen! So often hubby and I discuss such a topic wh...Amen! So often hubby and I discuss such a topic when I debate about working part time to make a little extra money, etc. In the end, we decide to keep things as-is and stick to our budget. We also come down to the fact that THIS works for US and OUR FAMILY. It may not work for everyone and it may not always be ideal for all. <br /><br />I totally get that some moms have to/need to work (my mom did all my life and still does) and I have never loved her less for it or felt like I missed out. My mom needed to and still needs to, work. <br /><br />I really, really wish that the media and other women/mom's would just give us all a break. The daily battle is so tough already, do we really need to make it worse for one another? <br />Again, wonderful post and perfectly written :)Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16604810218733272554noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5937303870758455964.post-89758854275757439012012-08-28T10:42:33.963-04:002012-08-28T10:42:33.963-04:00.... Well honestly I do feel lesser for never havi....... Well honestly I do feel lesser for never having a "real job" . <br /><br />I did outstandingly well all through high school and college. Yet I did nothing to prove how smart I was besides have babies. I still feel this need to prove that I am intelligent and worthwhile. Not that my husband doesn't think I am ... He does and ultimately would support any choice I made. Although he leans more on the side of me staying home. He finds what i do immensely invaluable. <br /><br />Anyway... You can never win with the media. There is always some sort of ulterior motive behind everything in the news.<br /> Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09561187611952737419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5937303870758455964.post-28201287851762204852012-08-28T09:30:32.901-04:002012-08-28T09:30:32.901-04:00No seriously, this is why you are my favorite blog...No seriously, this is why you are my favorite blog. I am staying home currently but talk about finishing school and going for the PhD or JD. ALL my SAH Mom friends ask "why would you do that? You're married and have a child?" <br /><br />You have just summed up my feelings far more eloquently than I could have. I just get flustered as to why they don't get it. Madelinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17721349139975265768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5937303870758455964.post-71627098919903738302012-08-28T09:17:24.245-04:002012-08-28T09:17:24.245-04:00Definitely love this, and totally agree.
Thanks f...Definitely love this, and totally agree. <br />Thanks for posting!Anahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07767555436747678165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5937303870758455964.post-29072446623301509352012-08-28T08:54:00.198-04:002012-08-28T08:54:00.198-04:00Amen to that!Amen to that!Kathleenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15035231628115404437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5937303870758455964.post-63850196189225624272012-08-28T08:41:49.144-04:002012-08-28T08:41:49.144-04:00love this Colleen!!
and I might just have to reco...love this Colleen!!<br /><br />and I might just have to reconsider Simon's standing offer to help me find a little work/sanity outside the home. Grace Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08838955376428951327noreply@blogger.com