tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5937303870758455964.post3167450799056621655..comments2024-03-29T09:23:42.772-04:00Comments on Martin Family Moments: Feeling Like I'm DoneColleenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11451797365712728579noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5937303870758455964.post-85625329396122808582018-01-18T11:52:44.103-05:002018-01-18T11:52:44.103-05:00I feel this same way! We only have 2, but I keep f...I feel this same way! We only have 2, but I keep feeling like we are missing people!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01011488171649975966noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5937303870758455964.post-32703671752428697102018-01-12T17:56:07.784-05:002018-01-12T17:56:07.784-05:00I know exactly how you feel! I turned 40 last June...I know exactly how you feel! I turned 40 last June and our 9th child was also born. Our oldest will be 15 in May. :-) I'm a little tired. :-) We also homeschool and don't live near family. I love all of my children dearly and we are open to having more if God wills it, but I'm also feeling very content with our family size.Being open to life has been quite the journey.When I got married, I was a contracepting Non-Catholic. It is amazing to see how God draws one to His church and changes hearts. Anyway, all this to say that I know how you feel! :-)<br /><br />JennyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5937303870758455964.post-16908704825845253172018-01-11T13:07:21.440-05:002018-01-11T13:07:21.440-05:00I read this after a summer and winter of purging a...I read this after a summer and winter of purging all of my baby gear! My husband and I are done -after our last one turned 3, we realized we are too old to do this anymore! (We're really old as parents of 3 yr olds go - I had him at 46.5!) As much as I love babies and welcomed all my kids happily, I know we need to move onto a new stage in life. I did have a yearning for a baby once my littlest turned 2, but I've come to realize it was more of nostalgia/habit, rather than a real desire to add to the family. (When you get used to have a kid ever 2 yrs or so, not having a baby is a weird feeling!) (Full disclosure: I also thought I was done after #1, and then after #7, so it's okay to change one's mind. )<br />I do miss having a baby around, but it's not in the cards anymore. So I can channel my energies to my assorted children. And maybe one day get a full night's sleep?<br />mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12388057081854458639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5937303870758455964.post-45879247984390227182018-01-11T12:58:23.445-05:002018-01-11T12:58:23.445-05:00Ugh, when they ask me that in labor, I'm like....Ugh, when they ask me that in labor, I'm like...do NOT ask me that right now, I am so weak!Colleenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11451797365712728579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5937303870758455964.post-63652024534624606922018-01-11T12:57:40.462-05:002018-01-11T12:57:40.462-05:00It's always scary to say, because I've bee...It's always scary to say, because I've been surprised before!!Colleenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11451797365712728579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5937303870758455964.post-43467253878786906552018-01-11T12:49:28.750-05:002018-01-11T12:49:28.750-05:00On the same page. I feel bad for saying it out lo...On the same page. I feel bad for saying it out loud, but my heart is definitely thinking that I am done. I remember when I went to my first Dr. appt with this current pregnancy and she asked me if I want my tubes tied if I have a c section. My mouth said no, but my head might have nodded yes :). Katie Rosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13346299617811169438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5937303870758455964.post-33020015419944654492018-01-11T10:56:14.884-05:002018-01-11T10:56:14.884-05:00THANK YOU for this! This is exactly how we feel pl...THANK YOU for this! This is exactly how we feel plus we have other issues that make it prudent to be avoiding indefinitely. Looking back, I did not feel done after #5. I thought I was done and convinced myself of it but something kept nudging me. Sure enough, #6 came along when we thought we were avoiding (seriously in a cycle with a lot of abstaining!) and as difficult as the pregnancy was, I felt a peace after that our family might be complete. Add to that the fact that we got a son after 5 girls when God knew my desires were strong for a son. Anyway, I appreciate when other people feel this way too!Bridgethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00951507632666957325noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5937303870758455964.post-35457495183554721522018-01-11T09:18:39.633-05:002018-01-11T09:18:39.633-05:00Thanks for sharing that Karen! After I had my sec...Thanks for sharing that Karen! After I had my second baby, I asked a mom of 8 how she knew how many kids she was called to have. She told me the same thing...until her 8th was born she always felt like there was more that were supposed to be there. When she had #8 she felt her family was complete. I remember thinking what an amazing gift that would be to be able to feel God's Will like that!Colleenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11451797365712728579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5937303870758455964.post-54989416067018314312018-01-11T09:16:50.435-05:002018-01-11T09:16:50.435-05:00Once you've had a big family, everyone asks if...Once you've had a big family, everyone asks if you're done yet or when the next one is coming. It hardly bothers me anymore, I get it, big families are unusual and therefore interesting! Don't ever worry about a comment you've left, you are one of my sweetest followers ever :) Colleenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11451797365712728579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5937303870758455964.post-77342268620087124882018-01-11T09:11:27.300-05:002018-01-11T09:11:27.300-05:00I had the same feeling after our fourth was born--...I had the same feeling after our fourth was born---prior to that, after each baby was born and got a little older I always had the feeling there was somebody missing--I'd count the two or three kids and say, "Who am I missing?" when we were out and about. After the fourth, that feeling was gone. I think that "somebody's missing" feeling was God's nudge, and afterwards He said, "Yep, that's the family I had in mind for you." Now, to some, a four-kid family is not a large family, but I came from people who thought the perfect size family was two kids--a boy and a girl, ideally--and so it was very radical for me to be looking at my three boys and thinking "There should be somebody else here!"samcarterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13559301165647772571noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5937303870758455964.post-67266572928549961542018-01-11T08:34:14.750-05:002018-01-11T08:34:14.750-05:00Oh goodness, I just want you to know that I just *...Oh goodness, I just want you to know that I just *thought* it was going to be an announcement on Friday. I really and truly think you have a wonderful, beautiful family. In any size. You, Phil and God can work it out between yourselves however you want with 100% support from my camp. I know you probably weren't basing this post off of my comment completely but seriously, you do you and I love you for it. Madelinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17721349139975265768noreply@blogger.com