When I was pregnant with Baby 5, I remember my four biggest kids discussing if the baby was a boy or girl. I told them they had to wait until the baby was born to find out. My three year old daughter piped up and said "That's right! If the baby is bald, it's a boy. But if the baby has long hair, it's a girl!" We smiled at her innocence and left it at that. He was born a bald boy, so it all worked out in the end :)
On Friday, I posted a quick little comment thinking about how we know this baby in utero is a boy based only on his biological boy parts scanned by an ultrasound technician. "Oh, he's definitely a boy" she assured us even though I was pretty certain this bambino was going to be a girl. We didn't even think to question her judgment. It was plain as day on the screen that he was, no IS, indeed a boy.
Yet, I am left to wonder, why is it that once those babies are born and grow up, it's not so simple? Why is there now a disparity between sex organs and one's gender? What used to be so black and white is now all shades of gray. We've always taught our kids since they were little that you "get what you get, and you don't get upset" when it comes to playing the hand they've been dealt. But now the world is trying to tell them that the most basic issue in our life: our gender, is questionable, is changeable? How did we get here? Has nobody read the Emperor's New Clothes? He's naked people!
Don't get me wrong, I truly feel so badly with anyone who struggles with this issue in their life. A boy who thinks he should have been a girl or a girl who identifies as a male...but that doesn't mean we need to change our definitions of male and female identity. We need to help these people who feel at war with their bodies. Offer them counseling, prayer, medications, anything to help them mentally and emotionally accept their state in life. Because their struggle is a mental disease. And to proclaim their mental anguish as a heroic testament to the human race isn't fair to anyone.
If we allow people to look down at their bodies and decide they were created "wrong" and allow them to identify as another gender, then we have to be okay with allowing anyone to identify as anything whenever they want. Are we ready for that? Consider the following:
When I am in need of some time off from work, can I identify as a 67 year old woman and qualify for retirement benefits?
When my kids apply to college, can they identify as minorities/geniuses/star athletes to obtain more scholarship money?
When my doctor says I am obese, can I identify as a 6'9" tall man who is actually underweight?
When my baby won't stop crying at night, can I identify as a college girl and pack up and head for a semester abroad in Europe?
When my husband forgets to pick up his dirty socks in the bathroom again, can I identify as an unmarried woman and find a new spouse?
When there are no close parking spaces at the mall, can I identify as handicapped to scoop up the last remaining spot by the door?
When I love my pet dog, I mean really just think he is the love of my life, can I marry him? Love is love, right?
Why can't I choose to identify as a different person with a different lifestyle when that is exactly what is being pushed through our culture right now. It seems crazy, right? But how can anyone judge me for wanting to be a completely different person than what I was born to be when I'm not allowed to judge them for doing the same? When does identifying as somebody or something we are clearly not become a lie and not just a life choice? When did coming out with a different identity earn a person accolades for being "brave" and "heroic"? How do we stop the madness yet still be compassionate and kind to all those suffering?