I've never been the type of person who just sits back and
prays for things to happen. Maybe this
is a weakness in my spiritual life, and I should be more trusting that God can
work miracles and let Him do His job.
But I just can’t seem to let that happen, I always have to try and do my
part. I will always believe that God
helps those who help themselves, so instead of praying for God to solve the
problem, I pray for Him to open a door to help me solve the problem.
My Mom had a homemade ice cream shop on Cape Cod for twenty
years, and that shop was an answer to her prayers for how to help out our
family financially while my Dad’s building business was being hit by the
depression in the eighties. She had
never made ice cream before, never run a business, never taken classes on
management and the like. She was a nurse
that stayed at home while her kids were young, and when my Dad was struggling
to make ends meet, God gave her the opportunity to open up a shop in our quaint
little Cape Cod village.
She took that
open door, heavy though it was, hung a sign that read “God does not call the
qualified, He qualifies the called” and started a successful little business
that provided for her family’s needs.
She worked so very hard to be able to give her kids good educations, and
from that family business, so many more doors were opened to us kids. Because you know what a family business
makes? Good hard workers.
I was only six when the ice cream shop opened, and
I worked filling spoons, washing buckets, wiping tables, whatever I could do
until I was able to serve customers at the ripe old age of 12, and became the manager at 16. My five siblings did the same, we all worked
long hours and learned valuable lessons in customer service, finances, and
business management. Then we all went on
to higher education because we knew how to study hard, work for what we wanted, and achieve the jobs we desired.
In the end, my parents ended up with an engineer/lawyer, two doctors, a
computer/tech specialist, an accountant, and a nurse. Not too shabby for a family of six kids who
grew up scooping ice cream and making waffle cones, with an immigrant Dad and a
stay at home Mom.
I’m not saying all of
that to brag, but to illustrate the point that working hard and getting the
grace to see an open door when it presents itself is key in getting answers to
prayers. Could God have just let some
rich distant relative leave us an inheritance and not made my mom open that
shop? Of course! Nothing is impossible with God! But that would have been a screen door answer
to her prayers, doors that just fly open to give what you need without doing much on
your part. Sometimes God gives us these
easy answers, these screen doors, and what a gift they are.
But sometimes the answer to our prayers is a little more challenging, like walking through a sliding door, which requires just a little effort on our part before we can see the puzzle pieces sliding together.
And sometimes there’s more to be learned or
experienced than just an easy answer to a prayer. Sometimes God’s doors are very big, heavy, doors. Doors that we don’t want to go through at all, but feel we
must. Doors that are so hard to open that we wonder if we are doing the right thing at all.
Most times they are more like a
maze of many, many doors, and we can’t see the answer until it’s all over and
we can look back with clarity that God did indeed lead us down that twisted path
for a reason.
And, of course, there’s
the saying that God does not close a door without opening a window. That’s called hope. We may not understand why He’s acting as
bodyguard to the door we want to enter, but we have hope and faith to believe
that He will give us what we need when we need it.
What a great perspective Colleen. It reminds me of the saying, "Pray like it depends on God, but work like it depends on you."
ReplyDeleteSo are you saying that parents haven't been successful with raising their children unless their children go on to higher education? And that those children don't know how to work hard because they don't have a higher education or that they don't have a "not to shabby" degree? I feel that my children will be very successful if they aim at pleasing GOD and working hard at life without worrying about who makes more money then the next guy. Their soul is what is most important not their brains or their pocketbook. I will feel I have been a successful parent if my children make it to heaven... even with no money in the bank, because they can't take it with them. I don't believe GOD puts you in a better place in heaven because of your choice of career.
ReplyDeleteOur oldest chose not to go to college because she knows she wants to be a stay at home mom raising her kids, and doesn't want the debt of college. She has found her soul mate recently who wants the same for her when they get married. She has worked at the bank in our town since she was 16, and is a VERY successful young Christian Catholic lady, whom we are VERY proud of!
I am a homeschooling stay at home mom of 9 (ages 19 - 3 months)... who doesn't have a status degree, nor does my husband) and we have made it just fine... no student loans to pay off, so we had a 4000 square foot home built 7 years ago and didn't need to take out a mortgage, nor do we have car payments and we have newer used vehicles. We have a few toys... and NO LOANS. We also didn't get an inheritance, nor do we have our own business. This country needs more "regular" people without all the degrees to pump up their egos.
Interesting post and very timely for me.
ReplyDeleteI really liked this, Colleen...never thought of it this way before. I'm quite familiar with the maze :)
ReplyDeleteThis is very insightful. I certainly prefer when doors are wide open and it is crystal clear what God wants from me.
ReplyDeleteThis is a great post!
ReplyDeleteWell said! Thank you!
ReplyDeleteGreat post!!
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