Week in Review: Sidewalks, Sleeps, Surprises and Shows

Happy First Friday of April!  It has been a rainy/cloudy week as one would expect for April.

One of the Lenten devotions I love is going to Stations of the Cross on Friday evenings.  That plus listening to Hallow's Lent Pray40 each morning are such good additions to my prayer life.  Are any of you listening as well?  The story of Takashi Nagai is riveting and inspiring, and now I want to get his book.

Four out of five servers are Martins, can you spot the imposter?

 Down at The Ice Cream Cottage, the sidewalk is getting an upgrade.  The sidewalk really needed to be redone, but the Town also decided to extend it about six more feet to make room for outdoor seating.

Before

During

After

Now we have to reconstruct a little garden to hide our ugly foundation, and buy some tables and chairs and benches to fill the space.  We weren't exactly ready to make these purchases after just having closed on the building last month, but people are excited for outdoor seating and we don't want to disappoint our customers!  I'm not sure if the restaurants on either side of us will do outdoor seating but I'm sure they feel the (social media, word of mouth) pressure as well.

April cleaning brings a May opening, and the kids have been helping Phil get things sparkly clean and set up.  You learn a lot in a family business, and the top lesson is that it's a lot of hard work!

I took the winter comforter off our bed and replaced it with this very pretty (at a great price!) duvet cover (had to buy a duvet too).  I chose the Mineral Blue color in California King size because even though we only have a king sized bed, we like our comforters a little more roomy.  I swear I've been sleeping better since we made the switch.

JP went out to his car one day after working at the hospital and found flowers and a note:

How incredibly sweet of this person!  JP said he saw a couple other cars had it as well :)

I made a really quick soup last Sunday night for lunches for the week and it turned out so yummy!  I just chopped some veggies and added chicken, chicken broth, spices and some chickpea pasta.  A bowl of the soup plus a greek yogurt ended up being about 300 calories with 38 grams of protein, not too shabby!

Phil and I finished watching The Residence, very Agatha Christie-esque:

We are impatiently waiting for the next episode of Paradise to come out:

I also watched Con Mum over the weekend, a good documentary about, you guessed it, a mom who conned.  

We are ready for a new show if anyone has anything they are loving?

Have a great weekend everybody!!

11 Years of Declan Kolbe

 I'm sorry to my other children, who all have their God-given strengths and talents, but Declan Kolbe Martin was our cutest baby ever.

Proof:

How did I ever get anything done while kissing those perfect cheeks all day?  What helped make this little guy even more handsome was his easy-going personality.  He's been a sweetheart from Day One all the way through Day 4018 or what was known as his 11th Birthday!

We started the day with a donut breakfast on the way to school, then he said that his teacher and friends made the day so special.  His friends sang to him, one brought him (another) donut, and his teacher let him be the assistant for the day so he sat up next to her desk and helped make decisions.  He told me every.single.detail of the day when we went on a walk after school with the dog, one of his favorite things to do (both the uninterrupted talking time and being outside).  

Managing Mom Guilt - Big Family Activities

 Declan started practices for his spring soccer league that was sold to us as a "close travel" league. But then I got the schedule (after paying $180 for registration and $200 for uniforms), and his first game is on Nantucket. Yes, the island. As in, a one-hour drive to the ferry in Hyannis, followed by a 2-hour ferry ride to Nantucket, all for a one-hour soccer game—and then travel the whole thing backwards.

Yeah, no thanks. Declan will be skipping that first game. Luckily, the rest of the games are less than an hour away, but I’m reminded why we didn’t do travel sports for our kids until now—and only because there’s just one child who wanted to partake. Imagine trying to manage travel teams back in the day when five of them played soccer at once? Impossible.

Which brings me to one of the hardest parts about being a mom to lots of kids: trying to give the same opportunities and experiences to each child.

Now, I don’t want this to be confused with giving each child “love and attention,” which is often the reason given to not have more than a couple of kids. The secret that the world doesn’t realize is that giving children more siblings naturally gives them more love and attention. There are literally more people in the family who interact with them, care for them, play with them, and have their backs. Parents aren’t the only source of love and attention (or entertainment, for that matter), and I dare say that children from healthy, big families get plenty of support and feel loved by many—which might not always be the case in smaller families.

But while love is infinite, financial resources and hours in the day are not. And that’s where having lots of kids in activities can get tricky. Much to my husband’s dismay, my brain tends to keep track of the opportunities we gave the older kids, and I feel the need to give the younger kids the same. They don’t have to choose the exact same sports or instruments or activities, but I want them to have access to everything, and not be held back or discouraged just because we’re busier now, paying for college tuitions, or, let’s be honest, just plain older and more tired now!